Tuesday, 6 October 2015

An Update

I know there are a few followers who have followed my blog for some time now, so you know that I faced a difficult time in my life when I was pregnant with G. For those of you who do not know, my ex-husband and I separated when I was 9 months pregnant. It definitely wasn’t an easy time in my life, but with lots of prayers and support, my two boys and I pulled through. But I thought I should give a small update on how everything is going, on all sides.

I am officially divorced and with my divorce, I feel a weight has been lifted. I am no longer tied to my ex-husband by marriage and I am able to put that marriage in the past. It has been said that everyone who comes into your life is either for a reason, a season, or a life time and I think my ex-husband was a reason. I say this because we have two beautiful boys that came from that marriage and came from me knowing him, and that is something that I will not regret. My two boys are something beautiful and amazing that came out of something that did not end good.

As for how I get along with my ex-husband, we are amicable. We get along much better now which makes things much easier when co-parenting. Sometimes we don’t always see eye to eye (this isn’t a new thing), but we manage to make things work and we seem to be making things work well.

As for my little family of 3, we are no longer a family of 3, but a family of 4. We are extremely happy and extremely blessed. I couldn’t be any happier than I am watching my boys with C. He has come into our family and from the beginning has loved these two boys as his own.

As for my boys having two families now, that is a good thing. When my ex-husband and I were together, we were not happy and the boys would have grown up with a poor example of what love is because we just couldn’t seem to work together as a team. Now that they have two families, they are going to have an overabundance of love from two mommies and two daddies, and let’s not forget the four sets of grandparents. I accept that my boys will have two mommies, which may surprise some, but I need my boys to be loved and accepted by whoever my ex-husband spends his life with. I want her to love my boys like her own and love them like I do. This is extremely important to me. It was equally as important for any future man in my life, who would become a daddy to them, to love my two boys as his own, and that’s what C has done since he stole my heart.

And as for me, I am happy, really really happy. 

1 comment:

  1. It's great to hear this update from you. I'm sure things getting to this point were not east at all but it sounds like things are better and that is wonderful news :)